“A Monster Calls” by Patrick Ness is about a teen boy named Conor who forms a bond with the mysterious monster that appears outside his window. The monster comes to tell stories of his fascinating past, and tries to help the boy apply them to his own life. Conor, the boy, has a mother who has cancer, no friends or acquaintances , and a father who abandoned his family for a new life in America. Overall these stories help Conor become a better person and resolve these conflicts in his life.
One lesson Conor learned that not being noticed by anybody was worse than only being known for his dying mother. Throughout the book, Conor is trying to find ways to be seen or to have any recognition among his peers. He even uses the fact that he is being bullied by a group of boys as an outlet for his attention. But when the bullies realize that they are making him happy by acknowledging him, they just start ignoring him. This isolates Conor further and makes him feel more useless. The monster teaches him how to cope with this by telling stories with the constant theme of characters not always having straight forward intentions. Looking further into these characters and their motivations shows that each character is both good and bad, evil and innocent, and has many different layers in their personalities. This shows conor that he doesn’t have to be completely ignored or completely acknowledged but can find a middle ground to get by.
Another lesson that the monster taught Conor was that sometimes people’s actions are not always clear but may have good reason behind them. The monster tells a story about a parson who cared so much about his daughters that he would disregard his whole religion the second they were in danger. The story also included and alchemist who punished the parson for ignoring his own religion in a time of crisis. This shows that although the alchemist may not have had good intentions, the parson deserved punishment for being disloyal to his own beliefs. For Conor, this applies to a dream he had the night before of letting his mother who was hanging of the side of a cliff go into the rocky depths below. He is scared and in denial of what the dream means, but knows in his heart what he was doing in the dream. He wanted his mother to die because he couldn’t deal with the constant false hope that she always gave him saying that she was going to get better.
The final observation I had while reading this book was that the monster actually represented total destruction in its purest form. The monster arrives as his mother begins her final stages towards death, his school life disintegrates to nothing, and his father shows Conor that he has let go of him. The monster ignites this fire in Conor which makes him break and bruise both his grandmother's home after they get in a fight, and his bullies face after the bully ignores him. The monster, while creating chaos in conors life, shows him that destruction isn’t always bad, and can even help you start and begin all over with a clean slate. Conor’s mother and grandmother both agree that destruction is a part of grief and acceptance and he learns that destruction is a way for him to accept his mothers death. This helps Conor accept that he was the one who called upon the monster and realises why he needed to learn this valuable lesson.
Overall, by telling conor stories the monster helps to not only teach conor how to overcome his struggles but to fix him as a person and help him continue on with life. The monster also replaces the lack of parenting is Conors life with a long since gone father and a dying mother. The monster helps him transition through major parts of his life when nobody else could.